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Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling

Healthy relationships are special and rewarding. They are also delicate and require ongoing care.

Very often couples get caught up in patterns of negative interactions, having the same fights over and over. They don’t like it, would like to change it, but don’t know how to talk about it.  Over time they become less and less connected to one another, leaving them feeling frustrated and alone in the relationship.

As Emotionally Focused Couples Therapists, we help you and your partner identify the problematic interactional patterns that have developed in the relationship that often leave you feeling alone and frustrated. By exploring each partner’s experience in the relationship, we will discover your unmet needs and gain new  and powerful insight into how they have been contributing to the patterns that leave you disconnected from each other.  Understanding each other, and these patterns, in a new way promotes healing and allows for new, fulfilling patterns of interaction to evolve between you.

Through this process, you will learn how to better articulate your own needs, gain a more clear understanding of those of your partner and how to remain connected with your partner in time of need so that you can turn to each other for comfort and connection.

We often recommend for couples to read ‘Hold Me Tight’ by Dr. Sue Johnson during the early stages of couples therapy.  Dr. Johnson is the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy and wrote this book for couples to help them strengthen, revitalize or rescue their relationship and experience a more fulfilling connection with one another. We recently received this email from one of our clients who beautifully articulates the power of being vulnerable and the clarity that can accompany new insight into our own steps of the relationship dance.

“This book is life changing and I am so looking forward to going through this journey with you leading us. I am a fast reader so I am 3/4 of the way done. By the middle of the book you see your entire life before your eyes and it gets depressing. But as you read on you see hope. He and I are going to be challenging clients for you and our last counselor helped at the right times but did not seem to give us life long skills to keep this going. I think this EFT will help. I long for a deep emotional connection with him and we still get glimpses of it. It is still there and can be found again.” ~ D. C. in Littleton

Is It Too Late for Us?

Some of you who are considering couples therapy are wondering if it’s too late for therapy. You have experienced too much pain, betrayal or ‘second chances’ and feel there is no hope for getting back ‘what you once had’. We encourage you to consider couples counseling anyway.  Often, when couples reach this point where they feel they have nothing left to lose, they are more open and honest with themselves and their partner. This creates a powerful opportunity for true beliefs, feelings and experiences of each partner to emerge. This honesty is what is needed to allow the process of healing to begin.

Pre-Marital/Early Marriage Counseling

Are you engaged?
Considering engagement?
Recently married and want to get started off right?
A fulfilling marriage can be one of the most rewarding experiences of life. Surprisingly, successful partnerships that endure life’s ups and downs also experience conflict and challenge. It is how couples manage conflict that separates those who endure, from those that last only a few years.

Couples who pursue counseling during their engagement or very early in their marriage can significantly reduce their risk of divorce by developing a higher level of marital satisfaction. In premarital/early marriage couples counseling, we will highlight the strengths of your relationship and discuss strategies for utilizing those strengths to prevent marital strain and overcome unavoidable hurdles. We will provide a supportive, non-judgmental environment to discuss any areas of your relationship you wish to change or improve. Lastly, we will guide you through the process of discussing important issues that every couple should explore before engaging in marriage, such as having and raising children, financial issues and establishing roles within the relationship. Discussing these subjects can sometimes be anxiety provoking; however we will facilitate respectful, positive communication which will allow both partners to express their authentic desires and concerns in a way that is productive and ultimately results in mutual understanding.

~ believe in new beginnings ~